The Value of Authenticity: Tell your story

Tell your story

We made it to 2016! As we have been looking forward to this new year, we have been exploring something crucial to our walk as Christian women… a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way. Several of you have reached out to me and told me how much you have been enjoying this journey and how much you are looking forward to a fresh start for 2016. I love that we have been on this journey together and I hope that you continue to be encouraged as we unpack our last topic on this authentic pursuit

So far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions
  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem
  4. Discovering Your Purpose
  5. God’s goodness in you
  6. Finding real confidence
  7. Humbling yourself
  8. Pursuing transformed relationships
  9. Doing your work well

…and I am probably the most passionate about the final piece to our puzzle today…. telling your story.

When you talk with other people – family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, strangers, etc. – be willing to tell them the full story of how God has worked in your life so far. Don’t change or leave out any important details because you’re afraid of what they may think of you if you told them the whole truth. Realize that the story of how your brokenness has caused you to depend on Christ is much more powerful than any other story you could tell to try to impress people. Trust that every difficult and painful event in your life can be used to glorify God and tell others of His great love. Tell others what God has done for you!

Your personal testimony is the most effective tool you possess.

Think about it…your testimony requires no scripture and no need to be a Bible scholar. Every one knows him or herself better than anyone else. It simply requires that you share the knowledge of yourself… the good, the bad and even the ugly. The real stuff… the stuff you don’t like people to know. All of it has made you who you are and all of it adds up to why you need Jesus.

Share your personal relationship with Jesus and the road you traveled to get there. People can argue scripture and theologies all day but they cannot argue the valid facts of your own personal life! Even if your life has never taken any wild twists or turns, its your story, your adventure, and the way that God has woven it all together has all been for the purpose of Jesus to shine right through it.

Paul realized that there is nothing more powerful than the Word of God working through the personal stories of believers. In Acts 22, Paul uses his testimony to point the Jews to Jesus. Then, in Acts 26, Paul uses his personal testimony to point King Agrippa to Jesus.

 A man possessed by a legion of demons was set free from torment. In Luke 8 the man having been set free (notice the word) begged to go with Jesus. Understanding the great power of testimony, Jesus said “Return home and tell how much God has done for you.” “The man went away and told all over town how much Jesus had done for him.” When Jesus returned, a crowd welcomed him, for they were all expecting him!  This man’s testimony created a welcoming party for Jesus! This power is verified in John 12:31: “our testimony will draw men to Christ.” His testimony did just that and today telling our stories continues to be a driving force of kingdom power.

As stated in Revelations “and they (the believers) overcame him (the Devil), by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.” There is nothing more real in all the nations than a recount of what our Lord has personally done for you. Every single person who has been forgiven of any and all sins has a powerful testimony. When we testify to Christ and uplift our Savior we may not save all, but by it, the Holy Spirit will draw them…. and THAT is beautiful.

Where do you struggle in telling your story? Let’s talk about it in the comments below and make that a focus of our intentionally authentic new year!

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you to intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Do your work well

Do your work well

In the last days of 2015, we have been exploring a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women. I hope that you have enjoyed the journey so farad I encourage you to stick with us as we continue exploring together two more steps you can walk out right away to take off the masks you have been presenting to the world and begin living this authentic life God is calling you to.

In our quest for intentional authentic living, so far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions
  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem
  4. Discovering Your Purpose
  5. God’s goodness in you
  6. Finding real confidence
  7. Humbling yourself
  8. Pursuing transformed relationships

…and today our focus will be on doing your work well.

Don’t disengage with your work, viewing it just as a job that you have to do, but don’t really want to do well. Don’t be so driven that you try to prove your worth by working hard. Instead, do whatever work you do – from changing diapers or answering phones to inventing a product or speaking to crowds – with your very best effort, remembering that absolutely everything you do has eternal consequences. Look at every task you undertake as an opportunity to serve God through your attitude. Instead of working just for a paycheck or praise from other people, work to honor God.

Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men

Colossians 3:23

Current statistics report that 90+% of employed people do not like their jobs and add to that all the people who are dissatisfied with the work they do every day. We may not have any control over what our daily responsibilities are, but we do have control over our attitude and response to them. If we keep in mind that we are not working for man, woman or company, but for the Lord, we will find our work much more enjoyable and even a blessing for us.
Why would we want to view our work in any other way?

Please, friends…. take a weekly Sabbath rest to recharge and acknowledge your ultimate dependence on God for your work and everything else in your life. Surrender your own career plans to God’s bigger and better plans for you. Instead of expecting God to work around what you’re doing, decide to direct your work around what God is doing. It will be beautiful and perfect and you won’t want to live your life any other way.

In what ways do you need to give your work over to God in the new year? Let’s talk about it in the comments below…

Blessings,

Coach Megan :)

 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you to intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Pursue transformed relationships

pursue transformed relationships

Looking forward to 2016, we have been exploring something crucial to our walk as Christian women… a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way. Several of you have reach out to me and told me how much you have been enjoying this journey and how much you are looking forward to a fresh start in the new year to come. I love that we are on this journey together and I hope that you continue to be encouraged as we unpack each topic on this authentic pursuit… there’s only a few left as we are right on the heels of the new year!

So far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions
  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem
  4. Discovering Your Purpose
  5. God’s goodness in you
  6. Finding real confidence
  7. Humble yourself

…and today we will be exploring Pursuing transformed relationships.

Let go of your concerns about how other people make you feel.

Don’t worry about…

being affirmed

being right

demanding respect

judging others

keeping score

harboring bitterness

competing

gossiping

or bickering.

Please, dear friend, be more interested in genuinely connecting with others rather than impressing them or saving face. Speak the truth in all of your relationships. Admit your mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

Lay aside your personal agendas to invite God to transform your relationships.

It is time to intentionally create margin within your closest relationships in order to give God enough space to work through them… molding them into beautiful representations of His glory, strength, grace, mercy and love. It will probably be uncomfortable and it will probably take a few moments for your feelings to catch up, but that’s okay.

God can handle that.

As women, we are in a position of great influence in the lives of our husbands and children, friends and communities. A woman whose life gets transformed by God changes a family from the inside out and ultimately a nation, one family at a time. That is amazing and beautiful and I want this so much for you and your loved ones. Let’s get started one authentic conversation, one real situation, one intentional relationship at a time.

Where will you begin? What is one relationship you can commit to pursuing in a 100% authentic way? Let’s talk about it in the comments below…

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you to intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Humble yourself

Humble Yourself

With only a few days left in 2015, we are exploring a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women. I hope that you have enjoyed the journey so farad I encourage you to stick with us as we continue exploring together several more steps you can walk out right away to take off the masks you have been presenting to the world and begin living this authentic life God is calling you to.

In our quest for intentional authentic living, so far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions

  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem

  4. Discovering Your Purpose
  5. God’s goodness in you
  6. Finding real confidence

And today…..  we will be talking about humility.

Please, sister…. consider the freedom that can come from humbling yourself.

Understand that humility actually frees you from the bondage of either inferiority or pride because it frees you from a preoccupation with yourself. Pray for the strength to become humble. Don’t demand your way even when it’s your right to do so. Be gracious to people who offend you and be willing to say “I’m sorry” when you offend others. Choose to see other people with the same value that you give yourself, remembering that only God’s grace prevents you from being the worst of sinners. 

Ask God to help you see Him more clearly, and expect that as you grow in your knowledge of how wonderful God is, you’ll be humbled by how much you need Him. Instead of searching desperately to figure yourself out, channel your passion into understanding more about God, who made you in His image. Realize that you please God most not by trying to make yourself good, but by throwing yourself into His arms with all your flaws, believing that He understands everything and still loves you.

Let’s pray….

Lord, may I always remember that the wisest and the strongest are not always the greatest in your sight, that the richest are not always the most precious, and that the most beautiful are not always the most loved.

May I remember , too, that everything I have is yours, and at any moment, you could take them all away. Let me therefore not boast of my health, of my youth, of my standing before men, for everything can take a sudden turn and I know not what could happen in the days to come.

Protect my heart also from self-righteousness. May I remember that those who suffer now aren’t being cursed or punished, and their plight does not in any way indicate how holy they are in Your sight. May I be reminded that even the greatest sinners today may repent and become the holiest saints tomorrow, and that those who seem righteous now may turn their backs on God when trials come.

Let me always be humble, Lord, like a little child, not by virtue of pretense, but by simply knowing the truth. And this is the truth, that every good blessing comes from you, O God, and apart from you, I will surely wither and die. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen. 

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you to intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Finding real confidence

Finding Real Confidence

Looking forward to 2016, we have been exploring a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women. Several of you have reach out to me and told me how much you have been enjoying this journey and how much you are looking forward to a fresh start in the new year to come. I love that we are on this journey together and I hope that you continue to be encouraged as we unpack each topic on this authentic pursuit.

So far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions

  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem

  4. Discovering Your Purpose
  5. God’s goodness in you

…and today we will be exploring Finding REAL confidence.

Rather than basing your confidence on how smart, beautiful, successful, talented, or charming you are, base it on what that will never change – God’s love for you and His power to work through you. Stop pretending to be someone you’re not to try to feel more confident as pretending will only lead to deeper insecurity.

Accept the truth about yourself, tell the truth, and live in that truth.

Place your confidence in God by taking the risks you sense Him leading you take – even risks so big that you surely would fail without Him. Be willing to relinquish everything that keeps you placing your confidence in yourself (accomplishments, knowledge, family, personality, appearance, relationships, possessions, education, status, etc.) so you can place your confidence completely in God.

I’ve compiled a few of my favorite Scriptures on the subject of confidence in Christ, but I would also like to encourage you to search for more on your own. Take them deep into your heart. Insert your name into them, look up and copy down various translations, write them in your journal, leave them in places where you will be blessed by finding them, put them on your steering wheel, breathe them, live them, walk them out…..

Philippians 1:6

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.

Psalms 44:6

For not in my bow do I trust, nor can my sword save me.

Proverbs 3:26

for the LORD will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.

Proverbs 14:6

A scoffer seeks wisdom in vain, but knowledge is easy for a man of understanding.

Galatians 5:10

I have confidence in the Lord that you will  take no other view,

and the one who is troubling you will bear the penalty, whoever he is.

Philippians 3:3

For we are the circumcision, who worship by the Spirit of God and glory in Christ Jesus and put no confidence in the flesh.

Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Hebrews 4:16

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Hebrews 13:6

So we can confidently say,  “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”

1  John 5:14

And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.

Jesus goes beyond giving confidence; He IS our confidence.

He is our security and certainty in a frightening and uncertain world as Proverbs 3:24-26 shows us…

“If you lie down, you will not be afraid;
when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.
Do not be afraid of sudden terror
or of the ruin of the wicked, when it comes,
for the LORD will be your confidence
and will keep your foot from being caught.”

Do you struggle to hold on to your confidence in Christ? I’d love to hear about it in a comment below…

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you to intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: God’s goodness in you

God's Goodness

As we are in the final days of 2015, we are exploring a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women. I pray you will join me on this entire journey as we will explore together several steps you can walk out right away to take off the masks you have been presenting to the world and begin living this authentic life God is calling you to!

In our quest for intentional authentic living, so far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions

  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem

  4. Discovering Your Purpose

And today….. I think it’s super appropriate that it is Christmas Eve and we will be talking about God’s goodness in you. It is so very important that you take time, reflect, and….

Trade lies for the TRUTH about yourself. 

Take an honest look at yourself in light of these biblical truths:

  • You’re sinful and are powerless to stop sinning on your own, so you need to rely on God’s power;
  • You’re not in control of your life, but God is;
  • The world doesn’t revolve around you, and you’re one small part in God’s great story;
  • All your strengths are from God, so you can’t take credit for them and should use them to serve and glorify God; and
  • Your weaknesses are greater than your strengths, because your weaknesses cause you to depend on God’s greater power.

Instead of just trying to feel good about yourself, seek to experience the reality of God’s goodness to you. Let the awareness of your brokenness lead you to the wholeness you can only find in Christ.

“Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way,

and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again.

God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.”   1 Thessalonians 5: 23-24

Being Transformed and Becoming Whole

When we accept Jesus as our Savior, God’s Spirit, his Holy Spirit, begins to live inside us.  As we willfully allow, our spirit is affected by the Holy Spirit.  Our spirit begins to take on the attributes of the Holy Spirit.  This new nature will begin to affect our soul.  Our entire mindset about God, our self, others and life can be transformed. Our thought patterns can become different. In turn, we can radically change many of our emotions and how we react to life circumstances. As we are guided by God’s principles as found in the Holy Bible, our resulting choices and behaviors will become more and more in line with how God wants us to live.  This is how we become sanctified and holy. This is how we become a complete or whole person in spirit, soul and body.

So often, we try to make major changes in our life on our own strength. We leave God out of the picture. You can not achieve a good degree of wholeness in your own strength and abilities.  The type of transformation that brings a sense of wholeness can only be done by the one who created you – by God himself. If we are to be whole, we must invite God into the deepest part of who we are – into our spirit and into our soul – so that from the inside out, we can be transformed into the type of person God wants us to be.

Our spirit, soul and body are constantly interacting together, as a whole, as a complete person.  That’s the way God designed us.  And Paul, inspired by God’s Spirit, shares the secret to being whole in Thessalonians….  It’s God himself who can change us through and through, in our entire being, if we desire this and ask him to.  Paul tells us that “the one who calls us is faithful to do this.”

Questions to Reflect On:

  • To what degree are you whole in spirit, soul and body?
  • What behavior changes might you be attempting to make in your life?  Are you trying to change from the outside in, or from the inside out?
  • Are you asking God to make a transformation first in your spirit, by the power of his Spirit?

Reflect with me in a comment below…. I’d love to hear your heart on this subject.

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Be intentional about how you will live life in 2016!!! I’d love to help guide you through not only discovering your purpose, but also intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Discovering your purpose

Discovering your purpose

Looking forward to 2016, we have been exploring a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women.

So far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions

  3. Embracing the biblical view of self-esteem

I know that we are walking in a hectic season right now, but I hope that you have been able to take the time necessary to pray and reflect. If not, it’s okay…. slow down, take your time. Know that it might take longer to work through one area over another. God needs you to intentionally spend time here in order to be able to do the growth necessary to get to where He wants you to be. When you’re ready to keep going, let’s talk about….

Discovering your purpose.

It is imperative that you do something… right now.

I need you to acknowledge that you can’t create value apart from God; He empowers you to do absolutely everything, and even your next breath is a gift from Him. So instead of trying to create your own feelings of self-worth, discover the purposes God has for your life. Remember that God has made you in His own image, so you’re valuable for who you are, not what you do. Know that God loves you completely and unconditionally; you can neither earn nor lose His love.

Did you hear that? It’s really important.

Know that God loves you completely and unconditionally; you can neither earn nor lose His love.

It is time to pray and ask God to make His purposes for your life clear, and to help you fulfill them well. Expect that when you’re pursuing God’s purposes for you, you’ll be free of the need to achieve, impress, and compete.

You may spend many years trying to figure out what your purpose is and you may even spend your entire life trying to discern what God wants you to do. That’s okay… you don’t need to know right now. All that you need to do right now is be talking to God about it and just start doing what you know to do in the manner that is consistent with who YOU are. YOU specifically…  Just be the unique person God created YOU to be and don’t try to fit into someone else’s makeup. God needs you to really embrace who you are, even all the things that drive you crazy about yourself. He made you exactly how you are for a reason, to impact His kingdom here on earth. Embrace it, love it, live it!

While you’re doing that, keep in mind that there is something you can definitely do that is common to ALL Christians. All Christians have a common ministry since all ministries basically tend to the same goal, which is to bring people to Christ and into edification (sanctification). What is the common purpose of all Christians? Take a look….

  • To be a disciple and to promote discipleship

  • Preach the Gospel according to the way that you are made

  • Bear fruit (as a result of your ministry)

  • Love one another (in deed and not just in words)

  • Walk by the Spirit (Live a life in Christ as a witness of the Christian faith to bring glory to God)

START WITH WHAT YOU KNOW INSTEAD OF TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW!

JUST BE WHO YOU ALREADY ARE!

Believe that God will lead you into your purpose and one day you will look around and wonder how you got where you are.

SEEK GOD FIRST

Your first objective is obedience to God. Do not search for your purpose else you will be preoccupied with it instead of with God. Simply walk in the Spirit the best you know how and follow the leading of the Holy Spirit the best that you can. Let God lead you and not you lead yourself.

MEET A NEED

There is still much that you can do regardless of whether you know your purpose or not. Do you see any needs around you that you can fulfill or help to fulfill? Does your church need ushers? Does your family need spiritual guidance? Find a need and meet it. Of course it would be much better for you to do something that you at least don’t mind doing and best, enjoy doing.

DO WHAT YOU’RE WIRED TO DO

Simply live according to the way that God wired you instead of spending hours trying to figure out what God wants you to do and worrying about titles. The way you are wired may be found in the things you like or the things you feel comfortable doing. God has already wired you for a particular task… just do it! One day you will realize that you are already operating in your gift and that you have therefore discovered your God-given purpose.

The most important step to discovering your God-given purpose: to realize that God has already prepared you for what He wants you to do. He has already wired you a certain way so all you have to do is operate according to the way that you are made. Your purpose is not “out there somewhere” waiting for you to discover it. Your purpose has already been established and is already inside of you. The discovery that you require is really just an identification of what you are. We seem to like titles. If we would just operate according to the way God wired us then we wouldn’t have to worry about identifying our purpose because we will find ourselves operating in it already. The only thing we may need is instruction for the purpose of edification. For example, a person gifted as an evangelist might want to talk to other more experienced evangelists for the sake of effectiveness.

Just live according to the way that God made you and you will by default fulfill your God-given purpose. If you live in obedience to God then your path will be established in Christ and you won’t have to worry about identifying your purpose because you will already be living it.

It is important to simply do what we already know to do before we can spend time trying to discover what God wants us to do. What we can do first is to be a disciple of Christ, preach the Gospel according to the way God made us individually, bear fruit, love each other, practice the ministry of reconciliation, walk by the Spirit of God. The important thing is to simply be in fellowship with God and to be what he made you to be by doing what he has already wired you to do.

Are you having trouble discovering your purpose? I’d love to help you discern through it…. leave me a comment below!

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you through not only discovering your purpose, but also intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Embrace the Biblical view of self-esteem

As we close out 2015, we are exploring a series all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women. I pray you will join me on this entire journey as we will explore together several steps you can walk out right away to take off the masks you have been presenting to the world and begin living this authentic life God is calling you to!

In our quest for intentional authentic living, so far we have examined….

  1. Realizing the price of the masks you wear
  2. Reflection in asking deep questions

…and today we will discuss embracing the biblical view of self-esteem.

Embrace the Biblical view of self-esteem

It is crucial that you base your self-esteem on God’s love for you instead of just your own love for yourself, and on unchanging Biblical truth rather than other people’s changing opinions of you in different circumstances.

if you are unaware of what the Bible says about God’s love for you, it will be impossible to walk in this truth and light. So…. I’ve compiled a few of my favorite Scriptures on the subject but I would also like to encourage you to search for more on your own. Take them deep into your heart. Insert your name into them, look up and copy down various translations, write them in your journal, put them on your steering wheel, breathe them, live them, walk them out…..

John 3:16

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

(For God so loved you, Megan, that he gave his only Son, that if you believe in him, you shall not perish but have eternal life.) 

John 16:27
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope

by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 8:37-39

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life,

nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth,

nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Ephesians 2:4-5

But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us,

even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ— by grace you have been saved …

Romans 5:8

but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Zephaniah 3:17

The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness;

he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.

1 Peter 5:6-7

Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,

casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.

Psalm 86:15

But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.

When I claimed Jesus Christ as my Savior, my identity changed. I was no longer separated from God because of sin. My transgressions, my guilt and shame, were removed as far as the east is from the west.

And when the Lord looks at me, He sees the righteousness of Jesus.

This truth is life altering.

I am not bound, afraid or weak. Because of Jesus:

  •  I am forgiven (Romans 8:1).
  •  I am free (1 Corinthians 6:12).
  •  I am empowered (Philippians 4:13).
  •  I am a conqueror (Philippians 8:37).

What lies are you letting go of today in order to embrace the TRUTH of the Biblical view of self-esteem? I’d love to hear your heart in a comment below….

Blessings,
Coach Megan :) 
*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you to intentionally living the life God has for you! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

The Value of Authenticity: Reflection in asking deep questions

Reflection in asking deep questions

Last Friday we began a series on this blog all about the value we find in living our lives in an intentionally authentic way… something crucial to our walk as Christian women. This is a topic we will be exploring further as we head into the last days of 2015 and I pray you will join me on this entire journey as we will explore together several steps you can walk out right away to take off the masks you have been presenting to the world and begin living this authentic life God is calling you to!

As we discussed, the first step to authentic living is realizing the price of the masks you wear.

I hope you were able to take some time to be still and examine your current relationship with God (and people) as a result of the masks you wear. I know it’s not an easy thing to do, but I promise you…. it will be worth it to experience the growth and depth of your relationships from doing this challenging soul-work now.

…and today’s topic is sure to help you along in the process….

If we want to truly achieve lasting change in any area of our lives, we MUST intentionally stop, be still, and reflect.

Ask deep questions.

Don’t be afraid to honestly ask yourself deep questions about…

  • your existence
  • your worth
  • your emotions
  • your thoughts
  • your purpose
  • your dreams
  • your fears

Stop living according to the status quo and consider what changes you need to make to become more authentic with God, yourself, and other people.

This is a place where I spend a lot of time with my clients.

Over time, we tend to take on other people’s values, hopes and dreams instead of walking in our own, where God needed us to be. Does this sound familiar to you? one of the things it makes me think about is how when I was younger, all of my loved ones told me that I was a horrible cook because I had burned a few meals. This caused me to walk into my first marriage having my husband do all of the cooking. I didn’t even try anymore… we all just joked and laughed about what a horrible cook I was even though I hadn’t really cooked in years (and not at all as an adult).

Then, Craig and I got together and all of a sudden I was full-time caregiver to his five kids! I had to figure out this cooking thing quickly! At first, I made a lot of “kid friendly” food that was processed and prepackaged, but slowly I began to play with recipes and experiment to find that I actually LOVED to cook and my family loved to eat the food I made.

One day, my mother-in-law told me that the best thing I could do for my kids was to put myself first. She said “unless you are happy and centered in who you are, you can not give your kids all that they need.”

This major realization made me stop… and think… and reflect. How did I get here? For so long I let myself believe all of these stuff people had put on me and I never even questioned if it was true or not. I just went with it because it *seemed* like a Megan thing to be true. How much more was there for me to need to unravel?

At this point in my life, I was around 30 years old and had recently become a full-time mom over night to five kids ages 4-12 . I had totally lost myself and had no clue who I was anymore. I survived to make sure that all of my people’s’ needs were met and I had never stopped long enough to see where I fit into that. There just wasn’t any time…. ever. AND the last thing I ever wanted anyone to accuse me of was not being Super Mom even though I was totally winging it and had no idea what I was doing.

So, I stopped.

I stopped trying to be super mom and I spent every moment the kids were at school reflecting and surrounding myself with people who could help me find ME again. I got centered, I got to know the real me, and I found Christ…. a real, deep relationship with Christ. God prompted me to go deep… really deep in finding myself again and not skipping over any questions I just didn’t feel like answering. He showed me that those were the ones that I needed to spend the most time on and finally explore.

It was hard, but it was so necessary.

….and I’ve had to do this again many times since then. It is so easy to spend time helping others sort through the hard stuff in their lives, and so much more challenging looking deep within to find our true selves.

Is this a struggle for you? Have you had success with reflection in the past? I’d love to hear about it in a comment below….

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help guide you in this reflection! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)

Authentically YOU in 2016! The Value of Authenticity

The Value of Authenticity

If we were to meet in person, you would see that I’m a pretty tall lady standing at 5’9”. I have clear, pale skin, purple hair, and have a sturdy build. I always wear glasses, I tend to smile often and I enjoy wearing fun clothing and bold accessories.

For most of my life, I have been extremely careful and selective about who would get to see the hidden stuff… the dark and not-so-fun parts of the person I am behind my colorful exterior.

You know what I’m talking about… all of the kinds of things our society urges you to cover up like deep insecurities, pride, shame, envy, unforgiveness, anxiety, depression, anger, and malicious thoughts.

After a while, you create masks to hide your true thoughts and feelings and present an image you hope will prove your worth. The longer you wear your masks, the more comfortable they feel. But its impossible to enjoy healthy relationships unless you remove the masks and show others who you really are.

Is this something you have been battling?

Are you tired of hiding but struggling to know where to begin

to start living your life in an intentionally authentic way?

If so, you aren’t alone and with God on our side, I want to help.

We’re all in this together, you know, and sometimes we need an impartial outsider with specific training and skills to help us be propelled forward to get to where God wants us to be:

Intentionally authentically YOU!

As we head into the last two weeks of 2015, I want to explore with you several steps you can take right away to take off the masks you have been presenting to the world and begin living this authentic life God is calling you to!

The first step to authentic living is realizing the price of the masks you wear.

It is crucial that you understand that your masks prevent you from experiencing intimacy with God.

I’ll say that again…

Your masks prevent you from experiencing intimacy with God.

Yuck, yikes, ouch.

Rather than trying to impress God, focus all you have and all you are on pursuing an honest and intimate relationship with Him while relying on His strength. Know that your masks prevent you from pleasing God. Instead of vying for other people’s approval and praise, live to please God alone – no matter what others think of you. Shift your focus from establishing your identity on earth to becoming a disciple of Jesus.

Understand that your mask prevents you from experiencing intimacy in relationships. Rather than trying to prove your value to other people, seek to simply connect with them. Let your love and value shine through every action and interaction as you seek to connect and grow.

I think that’s a good start and we’ll be talking a lot more about this as we lead up to the new year. I’d love to hear your thoughts about it in a comment below….

Blessings,

Coach Megan :) 

*** Are you ready to be #AuthenticallyYOU in 2016? I’d love to help! I’ve designed the most perfect 2 month coaching package just for you AND it allows you to gift a month of free coaching to a friend! Find out more here and don’t delay… this value expires 2/29/2016! :)